Lesser Dreams Are No Dreams

Have you ever had a dream that you thought was impossible? Something so big you actually second guessed telling someone because you were afraid they might look at you like you are crazy?

I think we all have those dreams deep inside of us. Things at the core we are almost ashamed of because they are so big, daunting, and unbelievable. They sit in the deepest parts of our being and eat at us until one of two things happen: we make them happen or we kill them.

American culture actually teaches everyone how to dream. We have a cliché tagline that defines generation after generation. But as much as culture seemingly encourages dreaming, it actually kills dreams. Those who have gone before us have realized their dream and, in an attempt to protect their creations, have impeded the ability to make our dreams a reality. We see what we want but do not know how to get it because the structure in place limits our ability to move towards what we desire. Culture effectively kills our dreaming.

There are the exceptions. There are those that trail blaze and create the new gadgets, systems, structures, and companies that we all aspire to and admire, but they are not the norm. They are the ones who got fed up with the system and decided to pursue the dream that was at the core of who they were.

Why are there so few people who are able to make their dreams a reality?

I think it is because deep down next to our dreams we want a plan. We want steps that can be laid out in front of us that will lead us to our end goal. Step one comes first, then step two, then three, then four… you get the picture. We want something nice, neat, and–more importantly–safe. We want to get what we want without the challenge or struggle it might take to get there. Because, the reality is, most of our dreams are things we have never done before. Therefore, we have no idea how to go about getting there. And that scares us. With no plan in place we have no way of measuring whether we are doing the right thing in order to make this dream succeed. Therefore, we end up shying away from the innate, human potential and settle for things that we can know, understand, and control.

Most of us do not mean to do so but with so many uncertainties and unknowns in life we want something to make sense. So we adopt someone else’s dream as our own because the path has already been laid out for us. It is easier. It is neater. It is safer. Sure, we still have to struggle through some things and work hard to make it, but when we do make it we only find out we are more empty and lonely than we were when we started. Most of us do not sabotage our dreams outright. We buy into systems and structures that are not conducive to help us achieve our dreams. So when we encounter resistance it is easier to set aside our dreams and conform rather than fight resistance on behalf of what we want deep down in ourselves. We adopt the dreams of the system we are part of and suffocate the part of us that comes alive. We have made the dream a reality; the problem is it was not our dream.

The problem is not that we do not dream; the problem is we settle for far lesser dreams.

Blue Like Jazz the Movie

I made the trip to be a part of pre-screening for the new Blue Like Jazz movie. It is based off of Donald Miller’s best selling book Blue Like Jazz. I read this book almost four years ago, but I distinctly remembering how it changed my view of Jesus and others. I recommend all of Don’s books, but if you have to read one or recommend one that will be create the easiest avenue for conversations with Christians and nonChristians alike, recommend Blue Like Jazz. It will not disappoint.

If you do not know the history of this film, I want to share really briefly how I ended up in Atlanta at a pre-screening. I remember hearing the rumors it was going to become a movie and was really excited about the details. Then I remember reading Don’s blog post explaining how the movie did not have enough back and was pronounced dead. I remember feeling a sadness because I was really looking forward to the movie and the conversations it would create, but there was nothing I could really do about it because I did not have half a million dollars to spare to help offset the start up costs and neither did my closest friends.

This did not stop two guys from Franklin, Tennessee from pitching the idea of starting a Kickstarter campaign to save Blue Like Jazz. With a blessing from Don, Steve Taylor (director), and the team, they launched the project to fund the movie and raise $250,000 in 30 days. Apparently, there were a couple thousand other people who wanted to help as well, and, before you knew it, we had raised over $340,000 to save the movie! I had the privilege and honor to be part of the team that backed this campaign and was thrilled when I found out the dream to make Blue Like Jazz a reality was alive again.

Dominique the Encourager

I met Dominique (Dom) freshman year of college. He was an upper classman in pharmacy school, so I really did not know him other than “The Black Guy at Wesley.” He was friends with one of the guys I lived on the hall with freshman year, but I really did not know him.

I got to know him a little better sophomore year as my friend ended up living with him. I would hang out a lot at their house on the weekends, so Dom and I ran into each other more often and began to have conversations and develop a friendship.

This “friendship at a distance” continued until we actually decided to live together this year with a handful of other guys we were friends with. There are six of us living in a duplex: three on one side, three on the other. Dom lives on the other side of the duplex, and while living within six feet of each other should not be a barrier to never spending time together, it is still not the same as living under the same roof.

Regardless, having the opportunity to do life with Dom this past year has been one of the most blessed experience of my college career. Not to knock my current roommates or past roommates at all but Dom is a very special person to everyone he meets. There are a couple words the come to mind when I think of Dom.

First is intentional. There is a genuine spirit about him that he wants to pursue a relationship with you. He cares about you as an individual. You are not just another face or name; you are an unique person crafted by God. If you rub shoulders with him for long enough, you will begin to see this about him. Living with him, I get to see it on a day-to-day basis. I can walk into his room and he will stop whatever he is doing to have a conversation with me. Usually this happens three or four times a week, just so that we can stay caught up on what is going on in each other’s lives and what God is doing. He always makes it a point to ask me how I am doing and what life is looking like at the moment. It is one of the biggest blessings to have someone who will be intentional about investing in your life on such a consistent basis.

Looking Past the Past

Gideon’s story is probably one of my favorite stories in the book of Judges. Not necessarily because of what he does, but really concerning everything that before he does anything.

God visits Gideon while he is threshing wheat in a winepress hiding from the Midianites. Winepresses were usually holes in the ground–either carved out of rock or pits. It is not somewhere you would just go to relax, as we can see as Gideon is grinding up wheat.

Therefore, God had to seek Gideon out. He had to look for him. Gideon was not with everyone else. He was away from the city trying to hide. And God found him.

The conversation that ensues after God shows up to Gideon is so full of truth.

God calls Gideon a mighty man of valor, but Gideon argues with God, claiming that he is from the weakest tribe in Manasseh and is the weakest son of his father. Gideon is arguing with God about how worthless he is.

God does not scold Gideon for his unbelief. God just reiterates what He said in the first place. God knows what He said. He did not misspeak. God is the source of truth, therefore, He can only speak truth.

But, Gideon was not courageous. God found him hiding in a hole in the ground. Without reading the rest of the story where Gideon became courageous, how do you reconcile that God called Gideon courageous when, it is obvious, he was not?

What if God was not concerned with where Gideon was at at that moment? What if, instead of emphasizing Gideon’s current state, God was focused on what Gideon was going to become? Instead of pointing out the frailty of Gideon’s character, physical appearance, or heritage, God elevates who Gideon will become.

That is the difference between Christianity and every other world religion. While other religions do place an emphasis on who you will become, they tend to focus on your past and how to reconcile that. The God of the Bible looks past your past, through your current state, straight to who you will be: Jesus.

He does not see the sexually abused, self-conscious sorority girl.

He sees a beautiful, restored daughter.

He does not see the lonely, forgotten computer nerd.

He sees a bold, courageous warrior.

He does not see a broken, bruised heart of stone.

He sees a new, redeemed heart of flesh.

Do not be Gideon, offering up pathetic excuses to God why you are not qualified, good enough, or worth it. Because, you are right. You are not qualified, good enough, or worth it. But, God looks past the past to see perfected work of His Son, Jesus.

And you should too.

Remember: Andrew the Tank

I had the privilege of being impacted by an incredible young man of God about six years ago. His name was Andrew.

I only knew Andrew for a short time. He was a senior in high school when I was only a freshman. We were both on the Student Council. He was the Student Body President and I was the ninth grade Vice President. There was no real reason he should have paid much attention to me, but he did. We went on the first planning retreat to Hilton Head Island our school ever had. Little did I know that what we set in motion that year would change the course of history at my high school.

I do not have too many memories of Andrew, but there are a few things about him that I remember and have been reminded of:

First, he was strong. I mean this in every sense of the word. Physically he was a monster. He was a solid, immovable force no matter the sport he played. If you ask anyone from high school what physical feature reminded them of Andrew it would have been his calves. He had the largest calves of anyone I had ever seen. His legs could lift an unbelievable amount of weight. He was as strong as an ox… or better yet, a tank.

He was also a strong leader. He had a magnetic personality that you just felt safe following. He was able to make decisions and delegate when he was the Student Body President. He allowed others to be involved but also knew when to take control. He led by example, not because someone told him he had to, but that was just the way he was. He knew the direction and wanted help lead you that way.

Second, he was contagious. I do not mean he was always sick; he had a contagious personality. He always loved to smile, laugh, goof around, and he somehow had the ability to coax you into doing the same. Granted, I was not one of those in his closest circle, but from the brief time I knew him and the stories I have heard about him, I know that he loved people with his whole heart and wanted to encourage them with everything he had.

Third, he was a worshipper. He had a natural ability and gift to lead others in music. I had the opportunity to work with him the same year we were on the Student Council on another aspect of our school in chapel. He led the praise band on a weekly basis and our team would interact with the band and to put together a set list and create a spiritual atmosphere. Andrew worshiped with all his heart every week, sang loud in front of all of his classmates, and played for the glory of God each time he set foot on stage.

Lastly, he was forgiven. I know from testimonies of close friends and family, as well as seeing his life on display for that one year, Andrew loved Jesus with all of his heart. He had a huge heart that loved people and wanted them to experience the joy and hope he had found through his Savior, Jesus Christ. No greater compliment can be paid to a man, in my opinion, than being called a man of God who followed Jesus every day of his life. I believe Andrew was that man.

Up to this point, I have been speaking of Andrew in the past tense not only because these memories go back to years ago but also because Andrew tragically took his own life on January 27th, 2012.

I had the opportunity to sit in a celebration service yesterday afternoon with 1,500 of Andrews friends and family as we all reflected and celebrated his life. During that time spent singing, listening, reflecting, and praying, I could not help but remember the words I have heard Louie Giglio speak time and time again when referring to death and funerals: “You preach you’re own funeral.” What he means is the way you live your life will speak louder than anything anyone can say at your funeral. The passion for which you pursue certain things in life will far outweigh the emotions people have on your last day on earth. Your heart will be on display to the people attending your funeral in the memories and impact that you leave behind, not the words that a preacher or relative say to a congregation gathered around casket. What you do in the appointed days you have to live will be the loudest words spoken in your eulogy.

And Andrew spoke volumes of love, compassion, joy, hope, laughter, and strength. He preached the best sermon out of anyone who stood on the platform that day. We know what Andrew stood for in life by examining the legacy he left in his death. My question to you is this:

What will you preach at your funeral?

Andrew, though I only knew you for a brief moment, I want to thank you for the impact you had on the lives around you. I want to thank you for the leadership example that you set before me and the life and energy you brought to a team that looked up to you. While I never knew you at a deeply personal level, I am thankful for the heart you had for others and the joy you brought into your family’s and friends lives on a daily basis. Providence was forever changed as a direct result of your leadership abilities, worship talents, and compassionate heart. Your legacy will live far beyond what you could have ever hoped or dreamed. Thank you for you loving Jesus and showing others what it looked like to love him too.